Do you fear failure? Are you having a hard time overcoming the fear of failure?
According to a 2016 survey, 34.2 million Americans have some kind of phobia, and the most common phobia is the fear of failure.
Honestly, this is not surprising at all.
If you think about it, school and even some parents pretty much teach you to fear failure.
Though there are of course more factors that come to play then parents and school.
In this blog post, you will learn 4 core reasons why people fear failure and how to overcome it.
Let us get right into it!
1. Social Conditioning
The first reason why people fear failure is because of social conditioning.
There are a lot of people in the world that fear failing, and I think one of the main reasons is social conditioning.
A lot of people in this world is socially conditioned to fear failure at all cost.
For example, if you fail on a math test, you get a bad grade and your parents yell at you because of it.
You fear failure because you associate with failure with punishment.
This is conditioning you to think that failing is bad and should be avoided at all costs.
In reality, though, failure is a really necessary and pretty useful tool for being successful.
Failure is a huge and main part of the success and it is true whether you like to admit it or not.
So to not fear failure anymore, you will have to change your social conditioning.
Once you do that, you will be able to not fear failure anymore.
Beliefs can slow you down on overcoming the fear of failure.
Most likely then not, you fear failure because you have certain beliefs around failure.
Mabe believes that failure is bad, maybe you believe that failure should be avoided at all cost, or maybe some other belief.
Personally, for me, I believed that failure was bad.
I could see why I believed this too, not only me but everyone else.
When we were in school, we were all given a grade based on how well we did on a specific assignment.
When we get a bad grade on let’s say a test, parents freak out and make you feel like you have done something wrong and punish you for it.
Or maybe perhaps the teacher does as well.
You then interpret failure as a bad thing and start believing that failing at something is bad and should be avoided at all costs.
If you think about it, it is no surprise at all why people are afraid of failure.
To change this, you will have to be aware of this belief, question it, and letting it go.
Once you do those things, you will be able to wipe out your negative beliefs around failure.
The third reason why people fear failure is because of there ego.
If you do not know what ego is, it is a program in the mind.
It kind of protects you from getting hurt from anything that may cause harm to you.
But I want to emphasize that it is not our sense of self and it is not bad at all.
I have seen some articles that say it and they contradict each other when they explain it.
It is simply an ancient program in the mind that its main purpose was to keep you alive.
So all that the ego is doing is protecting you from failing because it sees it as a threat and wants to protect you from harm.
All you have to do is be aware of your ego and go from there.
Once you become aware of your ego, you will be able to deal with the fear of failure better, or possibly get rid of the fear.
4. It Is Unknown
The unknown is pretty scary for most people including myself.
And sometimes, we fear failure because the thing that we know we need to do is in the unknown.
Understand those miraculous things that happen in the unknown.
You would not be able to attract something new if you do not do something you have never done before.
All you need to do is a step in the unknown.
It will be pretty scary at first, but once you get in there, you might realize it is not that bad.
One example that I see a lot of people have is starting their business.
They think to themselves, what if I fail?, what if It does not work out? and some do not even start because of the fear of failure.
But once stepped into the unknown, they start to learn and gain confidence.
They realize that it will work and they might fail along the way, but they will keep going.
Remember, when you get into the unknown, miraculous things happen and the fear of the failure will vanish.
How To Change It?
Now that I covered the reasons why you might fear failure, I am going to go over with you how to change it.
If you want a sneak peek, these are the reasons I will going to touch on in this part of the article.
Now that you know what I will be going over in this part, let us begin getting right into it!
1. Recondition Yourself
To stop fearing failure, you will have to recondition yourself.
Like I said earlier in this article, we were conditioned to fear failure and to avoid it at all costs.
This is a problem and you need to let go of this conditioning.
Meditation will help you greatly in letting go of the old condition of failure.
So I would recommend finding a quiet place to either lay down, sit up, or stand up if you want.
You could put on a guided meditation, binaural beats, or not listen to anything if you want.
When you are in meditation, it is important to understand that it served you until now and be grateful that it was there but know it no longer serves you at this time.
Once you let go of the social conditioning, condition yourself to accept failure and see it from a new perspective.
Think of it as something that is part of the success and accept that you will fail from time to time.
It might take you some time to condition yourself to accept failure and not fear it because you were conditioned to fear failure for a long time.
But over time, you will feel like your perspective and social conditioning on failure will start to change.
2. Shake Up Your Belief System
Sometimes you just have to shake up your belief system.
Maybe, you have a belief that failure is something you should fear.
If you feel fear when you are doing something new or might experience failure, ask why do I fear this?
You can then ask the following questions too, what do I believe to be true to fear failure? Where did it come from?
After you ask those questions, the answers will come to reveal themselves to you.
You can then decide to not believe that failure is something to fear for.
Maybe instead, you now believe that failure is part of life and that it is inevitable that you will fail a couple of times in your life.
Once you can change your own belief about failure, then you will not fear failure anymore.
3. Be Aware Of Your ego
The third way to stop fearing failure is to be aware of our ego.
The ego is not our sense of self, it is simply a program that tries to helps us survive from any possible harm.
So the ego will try to make you avoid failure not because it is evil but because it is trying to protect you.
The ego thinks that failure will cause you harm and pain, so it will try everything to make you avoid failure.
To stop this from happening, you would have to be aware of your ego.
But before you can even do that, you would have to know that you are not your ego.
Once you know that you are not your ego, you can then become aware of your ego.
You can become aware of your ego through meditation or by just being present with it.
So when you are doing something new and you notice that the fear of failure is coming up, acknowledge that it is fear and that the ego is just trying to protect you.
Say to it that you understand that it is trying to protect you but this thing will not cause me any harm.
It might come up over and over again but the fear will fade away over time.
4. Step Into The Unknown
Sometimes you just have to step into the unknown.
It is pretty scary to do, but that is where the magic happens.
I think that Frozen 2 is a perfect example of this.
If you have not seen it yet, I highly recommend that you see it.
Unless you are not a Disney fan of course or do not care for the singing in it.
The whole thing was basically about stepping into the unknown.
Anyway, when you do step into the unknown, it will be scary.
But you may find your true calling and finally find something that you feel like you were meant to be doing.
Yes, you might fail a million times, but that is okay because everyone fails.
You will overcome the fear of failure over time and might even realize that failure is part of success.
That is all I have for this blogpost on the core reasons why people fear failure and how to stop it.
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