Are You Tired Of Dealing With Angry People?
Do you find yourself dealing with angry people all the time? Do you find that when someone is yelling at you or is yelling at someone else that you don’t really know how to respond or you respond by yelling back?
It’s sometimes hard to respond to a person that is angry, so you will learn how to deal with angry people so you will be better equipped the next time you encounter an angry person.
1. Don’t React With Anger
When you react with anger to an angry person, you are letting the angry person have control over you. You must take responsibility for your own emotions in order to have the clarity to handle the situation that you are in. Find out within yourself the cause for your reactions towards the angry person. Ask yourself “What is their anger triggering inside Me”? and “Why Is it affected me so much”?
Just by understanding yourself and your triggers, you can master your own emotions more and can deal with the angry person in a better manner.
2. Seek To Understand The Other Person
When someone is angry, there is usually some type of pain behind their anger. Yelling at them will not help the situation at all, it will just make it worse. So instead of yelling at them, Seek to understand the other person, They usually feel resentment, wounded, and misunderstood. So try to be compassionate and understanding to the other person, because only hurt people hurt people.
Anger is also learned behavior that becomes a habit over time. If you had any bad habits (Which I’m pretty sure everybody has), you know it can be really hard to change it or break it and sometimes you feel bad when you fail to break it. Anger habits blind people in their responsibility for their pain. They usually lash out at people in order to feel better.
3. Don’t Be Afraid Of Anger
For some highly sensitive people (including myself) experiencing someones, anger is really uncomfortable. Angry people can know that your sensitive and use it to control you or take advantage of you in some shape or form. You must train yourself and understand that anger by itself won’t really hurt you. It’s just another expression of emotion, and though it might be very uncomfortable, It doesn’t really have to be threating unless you allow it to be threatening.
Though, if someone is using physical harm then you should leave that person altogether. You don’t really need to be controlling by raising your voice or saying a harsh or angry comment. Stand your ground like you would with a bully. A lot of angry people will back down because they know that they can’t really control you when you stand your ground.
4. Acknowledge That They Are Angry
Angry people often want to be heard and acknowledged. All you need to say sometimes is ‘I see that you are upset”.
This simple acknowledgment might release some anger that the other person has inside them for either a short time or for a long time. At that moment, you can simply say “I hear you”. The angry person might still be angry or frustrated because you’re not really being reactive at all. At this point, say that you will be open to discuss the situation when the angry person is able to calm down or able to have a calm conversation. Then give them plenty of space for them to cool off. It allows you to keep control of your emotions while not making the other person’s anger worse.
5. Be Kind
Peoples behavior is basically a reflection of how they truly feel inside of themselves. Angry people need love and kindness more than anything else, if you return with anger it would only make their anger even worse, and you will not feel that good either. At that point, you would be fighting fire with fire. When you are kind, most likely than not kindness will disarm anger and might diffuse the other person’s anger or rage. Showing kindness as well as understanding them will come a long way in helping an angry person see a better way to react towards people and the world.
Dealing with angry people can be very difficult sometimes. Though you can choose to seek to understand them, be kind to them, or acknowledging that they are angry. If you implement at least one of the things that were on this list, then you would have an easier time dealing and or responding to an angry person.
Do you have a person in your life that is angry all that time that you have to deal with? Do you struggle with anger yourself? What strategies do you do yourself when dealing with anger or an angry person? Which strategy helped you the most? Please share your experiences in the comments below.
And if you have any questions at all then type them in the comments too. I will try to reply you as soon as I can.