Do You often ask yourself why do I feel angry? And why you feel angry all the time? Do you want to find how stop being angry but don’t know how?
It is completely healthy to feeling angry or upset once in a while.
But if you feel like you are getting mad most of the time, then that will become a problem and need to be resolved.
To find the reason why you are feeling angry, you need to find out why you are feeling mad or upset in the first place.
Searching through your emotions by listening to your anger, and finding when the anger started is a good way to find out why you are mad.
When you do find out why you are mad, you can work on letting go of the anger that is deep inside you.
If you still don’t know why you feel angry, then you came to the right place.
In this blog, you will learn 7 possible reasons why you feel angry all the time.
Now let us begin.
/1. Bad Habits
One of the possible reasons why you feel angry is because of bad habits.
There are a lot of bad habits that possibly make you angry.
But one of the bad habits that I see all the time is blaming other people.
Not only will you have bad relationships with everyone by having this habit, but you will feel angry and miserable too.
If you know you have a bad habit that is causing you to feel angry, then change that habit right away.
Though I know that it sounds easier said than done so I am going to explain how to change it.
How Do You Get Rid Of This Habit?
To get rid of the bad habit of complaining, you will have to be mindful.
Whenever you find yourself complaining about something, instantly stop right away.
When you are complaining, you are saying to yourself that you are a victim of your circumstances.
You are responsible, understand that you are responsible for how you react to the problems that come into your life.
When something comes at you, do not complain and be mad about what happened, instead respond more positively.
For example, I used to blame other people for my problems or how things are.
When I got older, I realized that I was the one that was causing all the problems and I was blaming other people because it was a lot easier to do than to admit and take responsibility to myself.
Blaming other people also made my relationships worse and I was responding to everything negatively.
I quickly decided to change that bad habit and now I don’t do it anymore.
After I made that decision, I begin to feel a lot less angry because of it.
Not only I feel less angry, but my relationship with others and I have increased too.
Now I know that changing a habit is not easy and it does take time to get rid of a bad habit and implement a new one but it is well worth it in the long run.
There is also more ways on how break a bad habit than this. But being mindful is the first step into changing the habit
2. Pain From The Past
Pain from the past is a possible reason why you feel angry.
You might feel some resentment from what happened to you in the past whether it was grief, abuse, or something else.
The only way to not be mad about what happened in the past is to let go of what happened.
How to let go of the past you may ask? Well, one of the ways you could is to accept it happened and be okay with it.
It will be hard to do (of course depending on what it is and how much pain you feel from it) but you have to let go to not be mad or suffer from it.
I’m going to explain something that may make it easier for you to let go.
So when you feel anger towards let’s say a specific person for what they did to you for example, who is suffering at that moment? It’s not the person that you are angry about, it’s you.
You are making yourself suffer by staying angry with the person.
I understand that you want to make the person suffer from what they did to you.
But the only person in the situation that is suffering is you.
So when you realize this, you can choose to let go of your anger towards that person and you will feel a lot better from doing it.
You can also do a visualization exercise that might help.
Imagine that you are holding a hot piece of coal(which is the thing that you want to let go).
Now just let go of the piece of coal then voila! You just let go.
Once you let go, you will notice that you will feel a whole lot better and you will feel less angry.
Jealously usually happens when someone has something or achieved something that you don’t have or achieved.
So instead of being jealous of what the other person has or achieved, think of how you can achieve the same thing, maybe even ask them what they did to achieve or have the thing that you wanted.
Also, I wanted to add that you should use that person as an inspiration to where you want to be in life.
For example, if the person is more confident than you and you want to be more confident, then hang around the more confident person.
See the confident person habits that make them confident, and ask how they are so confident with themselves.
Or if the person is rich and you want to be rich, then hang around with the rich person.
See the rich person habits that make him rich, and ask how the person got rich.
You will notice that you will feel less jealous and angry as a result of thinking about how to achieve the same thing.
When you are feeling frustrated with something in your life, you might respond to it with anger.
One example of this is your computer or laptop is being slower than usual.
You get impatient and you start to get frustrated and angry because the computer is being slow.
One thing that you can do is to take in some deep breaths, it will make your mind calmer and you will feel less frustrated as a result of feeling calmer.
I would recommend to take in about 5 deep breathes in or take a break whenever you feel frustrated about something.
You can also be present with your frustration and ask yourself “why am I feeling frustrated?”
Be present with it and keep on asking yourself this question until you find out why you are feeling frustrated.
When you feel like you solve the reason or you are not frustrated anymore, then you can go back on what you were doing if you want and if you don’t, that’s fine too.
If you want to learn how to not be frustrated all the time, then check out my blog on how to not be frustrated all the time.
When you are trying to manipulate people or situations to be a certain way, then you will feel mad most of the time.
I know this because I met some manipulative people in my lifetime.
I noticed that when they try to manipulate people and situations, they get very mad especially when a person or situation doesn’t go their way.
One thing that you can do to stop manipulating is to stop trying to control everything and let everything be what it is.
I found that letting go of control is the best way to do this.
You will feel a lot better when you let everything to be what it is instead of trying to control everything.
It might be hard to do if you have done it for a while but it is well worth it.
You might even look back and see that it was very unnecessary to try to control everything, you might even realize that trying to control everything had more of a tole on you than just letting things be the way they are.
Feeling powerless is the sixth reason why you might feel angry.
I found that having self-confidence and changing your beliefs can help you feel less angry and powerless.
Maybe you might be thinking, “why does being confident have to do with being angry?”
My answer is that some people will feel angry because when people feel powerless, they usually don’t have any confidence in them at all.
They feel like they are victims of their circumstances, and they feel like they can not do anything about it.
One way to feel less powerless is to increase your self-confidence.
You can increase your self-confidence by taking good care of yourself.
If you want to learn more about increasing your confidence, then you can go here. I go more in-depth in increasing confidence.
The second way to feel less powerless is to change your beliefs.
Ask yourself “why do I feel powerless?” “What do I believe to be true if I consistently feel powerless?”
Once you change your beliefs about powerlessness and have more self-confidence, you can take more action, feel like you can do anything, and the anger that is deep inside you will go away because you are all-powerful!
7. Approval Seeking
The final reason why you feel angry is that you are seeking approval from other people.
When you seek approval from another person and you don’t get the type of reaction from them that you wanted, then you will feel angry, either at the person who you were seeking validation from or yourself.
I used to seek approval from others when I was younger.
When I sought approval from another person and I didn’t get a certain reaction that I wanted or expected from them, I would feel mad at the person and I would also not feel validated.
You won’t only get mad, but you will also won’t feel worthy.
If you felt worthy, you wouldn’t try to seek approval at all in the first place.
So to solve this, accept yourself, and have self-worth.
3 main methods help with accepting yourself and have higher self-worth.
Those six are, celebrate your strengths, forgive yourself, quiet your inner critic, eliminate self-criticism, accept compliments, and heal your past.
It will take a little bit of time to do, but you will see over time that you will accept yourself more, you will have more self-worth, and you will feel less angry.
Doing nothing and not realizing why you are angry won’t change a thing.
So you must take action and figure out why you are mad and when you do find out, start to work on yourself and let go of the anger that is inside of you.
If you want to share any of your experiences with anger and how you overcome it or you want to ask a question, then comment below.
I will reply to you as soon as I can.
That’s all I have for this blog post, I hope that you enjoyed reading this and got something out of this.
Have a great day.