Do You Feel Angry And Upset All The Time?
Do you feel angry all the time? Do you want to stop being angry but don’t know how? Everybody feels angry and upset once in a while.
Some more than others, but some people feel angry and upset most of the time and that can become a problem over time.
I used to be a really angry person when I was a kid and a little bit in my teenage years.
I don’t specifically remember why I was a really angry person most of the time but all I remember that I was a really angry kid and teenager.
To solve why your feeling angry, you need to find out why you are feeling mad or upset most of the time and when you do find out, you can work on letting go of the anger that is inside you.
If you don’t know why you feel angry, then you came to the right place.
Because in this blog, I’m going to show you why you feel angry all the time. Now let us begin.
1. Bad Habits
One of the possible reasons why you feel angry is because of bad habits.
One of the bad habits that I see all the time and what I did when I was angry is the habit of blaming other people.
Not only will you have a bad relationship with everyone by having this habit, but you will feel angry most of the time and miserable too.
So if you know you have a bad habit that is causing you to feel angry, then change that habit right away.
For example, I used to blame other people for my problems or how things are.
When I got older, I realized that I was the one that was causing all the problems and I was blaming other people because it was a lot easier to do than to admit and take responsibility to myself.
I quickly decided to change that bad habit and now I don’t do it anymore.
After I made that decision, I begin to feel a lot less angry because of it.
Now I know that changing a habit is not easy and it does take time to get rid of a bad habit and implement a new one but it is well worth it in the long run.
When you get rid of a bad habit, you will notice that you feel angry less of the time and your relationships with other people will be better too.
2. Pain From The Past
Pain from the past is a possible reason why you feel angry.
You might feel some resentment from what happened to you in the past or what you did in the past whether it was grief, abuse, or something else.
The only way to not be mad about what happened in the past is to let go of what happened in the past.
How to let go of the past you may ask? Well, one of the ways you could let go of the past is to accept that it happened and be okay with it.
It will be hard to do (of course depending on what it is and how much pain you feel from it) but you have to let go to not be mad or suffer from it.
I’m going to explain something that may make it easier for you to let go.
So when you feel anger towards let’s say a specific person for what they did to you for example, who are suffering at that moment? It’s not the person that you are angry about, it’s you.
You are making yourself suffer by staying angry with the person.
I understand that you want to make the person suffer from what they did to you which I could relate.
But the only person in the situation that is suffering is you.
So when you realize this you can choose to let go of your anger towards that person and you will feel a lot better from doing it.
Once you do it, you will notice that once you do let go of the past, you will feel a whole lot better and you won’t feel less angry.
Jealously usually happens when someone has something or achieved something that you don’t have or achieved.
So instead of being jealous of what the other person has or achieved, think of how you can achieve the same thing, maybe even ask them what they did to achieve or have the thing that you wanted.
Also, I wanted to add that you should use that person as an inspiration to where you want to be in life.
For example, if the person is more confident than you and you want to be more confident, then hang around the more confident person.
Or if the person is rich and you want to be rich, then hang around with the rich person.
You will notice that you will feel less jealous and angry as a result of thinking about how to achieve the same thing.
When you are feeling frustrated with something in your life, you might respond to it with anger.
One example of this is your computer or laptop is being slower than usual.
You get impatient and you start to get frustrated and angry because the computer is being slow.
One thing that you can do is to take in some deep breaths, it will make your mind calmer and you will feel less frustrated as a result of feeling calmer.
I would recommend to take in about 5 deep breathes in or take a break whenever you feel frustrated about something.
When you feel like you are not frustrated anymore, then you can go back on what you were doing if you want if you don’t, that’s fine too.
If you want to learn how to not be frustrated all the time, then check out my blog on how to not be frustrated all the time.
When you are trying to manipulate people or situations to be a certain way, then you will feel mad most of the time.
I know this because I met some manipulative people.
I noticed that when they try to manipulate people and situations, they get very mad especially when a person or situation doesn’t go their way.
One thing that you can do to stop manipulating is to stop trying to control everything and let everything be what it is.
You will feel a lot better when you let everything to be what it is instead of trying to control everything.
It might be hard to do if you have done it for a while but it is well worth it.
You might even look back and see that it was very unnecessary to try to control everything and you might even realize that trying to control everything had more of a tole on you than just letting things be the way they are.
You might feel angry because you feel like you are powerless.
people who feel powerless usually don’t have any confidence in themselves and they feel like they can’t do anything.
So one of the things that you can do to not feel powerless is to be more confident in yourself.
When you are confident, you will take more action, and you will feel like you can do anything which in result, will make you more confident.
I talked more about confidence in another blog, you can go check it out here.
Anyway, let’s get back to the post.
Maybe you might be thinking, “why does being confident have to do with being angry?”
My answer is that some people will feel angry because when people feel powerless, they usually don’t have any confidence in them at all.
So when you feel confident, the anger that is inside of you will go away because you don’t feel powerless anymore.
7. Approval Seeking
The final reason why you feel angry is that you are seeking approval from other people.
When you seek approval from another person and you don’t get the type of reaction from them that you wanted, then you will feel angry either at the person who you were seeking validation from or yourself.
I used to seek approval from others when I was younger, I remembered that when I sought approval from another person and I don’t get a certain reaction that I wanted or expected from them, I would feel mad at the person and I would also not feel validated too.
You won’t only get mad, but you will also won’t feel worthy.
If you felt worthy, you wouldn’t try to seek approval at all in the first place.
So to solve this, accept yourself, and have self-worth.
It will take a little bit of time to do, I’m still working on it but you will see over time that you will accept yourself more, you will have more self-worth, and you will feel less angry.
Doing nothing and not realizing why you are angry won’t change a thing.
So you must take action and figure out why you are mad and when you do find out, start to work on yourself and let go of the anger that is inside of you.
If you want to share any of your experiences with anger and how you overcome it or you want to ask a question, then comment below.
I will reply to you as soon as I can.
That’s all I have for this blog post, I hope that you enjoyed reading this and got something out of this.
Have a great day.