Does Your Anger Get The Best Of You?
I think that almost everybody got their anger the best of them at least once in their life. I know that I was angry almost all of the time when I was a kid. I was always mad of my parents, my brother, and even myself.
I was mad that my parents made me do chores and I was mad that they didn’t let me do certain things that I wanted to do like hanging out with friends, playing video games, and so on.
I was mad at my brother almost all the time and I honestly don’t really remember why and I was mad at myself because I wasn’t good at basketball.
I remembered that I would push myself to make a certain amount of shots and if I failed, I would get mad and talk about myself in a negative way.
Some people feel angry because of something that someone did in the past that wasn’t really that pleasant, or because of what happened at work and so on.
Feeling angry all the time is very exhausting and it takes a tole on your body and your mind too. So in this blog post, you will learn 7 things to do to not be so angry.
1. Focus On Breathing
When you are angry at something or someone, focus on breathing. Focusing on breathing will take your focus away from the thing that is making you angry and it will make you feel more calm too.
I would recommend to do this whenever you are feeling angry at something or someone. When you focus on your breathing consistently, you will feel less mad and will start to feel more peace and calm in your life.
Exercising is a good way to feel less anger too. You can take a quick jog down the street, play some of your favorite sports, or even go to the gym.
A study that was presented at American College of Sports Medicine’s 57th Annual meeting in Baltimore discovered that exercise might have a beneficial affect on anger.
So, according to this study, exercising is a good way to feel less anger. So exercise more often so you will feel less angry.
Not only will you feel less angry as a result, but you will be in better shape. That’s a win win in my books.
3. Take Some Time For Yourself
Sometimes, you have to take some time for yourself to just relax. You might feel angry because of what happened at work, friends, family, or any other reason why you are mad.
Taking some time for yourself and just relaxing will help you calm down and maybe discover something about yourself that you haven’t noticed before.
Some of the ways you can relax and take time for yourself is taking a nice hot bath, reading, meditating, or something else.
It really doesn’t matter what it is, as long as you spend some time for yourself and take care of yourself, that’s all that really matters.
4. Let Go Of Grudges (forgiveness)
letting go of grudges or forgiving others is an important thing to do in order to feel less angry.
Most people have a hard time letting go or forgive because they feel that the person that they are holding a grudge needs to be punished, feel afraid that they will get hurt again, or they feel angry.
One of the things that you can do to forgive someone is to let go of what happened. If you have trouble letting go, then imagine that the person that you are letting go is the piece of coal that you are holding. You don’t want to hold on to the coal for long since the coal is hot. Imagine that you are letting go of the coal. Then congratulations, you just let go of the grudge that you had with the other person.
If you want to learn more on how to forgive others, then you can check out my blog post on forgiving others.
I know that forgiving someone or letting go of grudges might be a hard thing to do, but it is very necessary in order to not feel angry all the time.
5. Write it Out
Writing it out is a good way to get rid of the anger that is boiling inside of you.
You can write it down on a notepad, a piece of paper, a journal, or anything else that you can use to write down how you feel in the moment.
It is better that you write it down with pen and paper rather than on your phone or any other device. A study from psychological Science found that writing forces you to be more selective. So when you write down how you feel, you will be more selective of how you feel in the moment.
Make sure when you are writing your feelings down that you don’t sugar coat it in anyway. right down how you actually feel even though it might not be pleasant.
I can not say enough of how beneficial meditation is. Meditation can allow us to feel more calm, happy, Joy, Peace, and so much more.
When you find yourself feeling mad at something whether it’s something that happened at work or an argument that you had with a family member, begin to meditate and I can say that you will feel so much better than before.
Now, when you are meditating, make sure that you don’t interact with the mind at all. If thoughts come up, just simply ignore them. I know that ignoring your thoughts can be hard thing to do especially if you never meditated before but the more you meditate, the easier it gets to ignore your thoughts.
When I first started meditating, it was difficult to ignore my thoughts, I found myself that I was interacting with my thoughts while meditating. I found that the more I meditated and was practicing on ignoring my thoughts, the easier it was to ignore them.
So you will definitely have to meditate consistently, whether it’s 15 minutes, 30 minutes, or an hour per day. If you are a beginner, I would recommend to start meditating about 5 to 10 minutes a day until you feel like you want to meditate longer.
Though, when you do meditate, your anger will fade away and if you do it consistently, you might not be angry at all anymore or will be angry a lot less often.
7. Let It Happen
Sometimes, you just have to let it happen. What I mean by let it happen is to allow yourself to feel angry. Yell, or maybe hit something that you know that won’t break.
It is better to allow yourself to be angry than to suppress your anger because suppress anger builds over time and one day, all that suppressed anger will burst out and it will not be pretty.
It is important to feel anger temperately and not live in anger. You will be miserable most of time when you live in anger. It is okay to express your anger, anger tells us something like all emotions. So the next time you feel anger, let it happen and find out what it’s telling you.
We all feel anger, some more often and some less often. If you feel a lot of anger then ask yourself “why do I feel so angry? What can I do to not feel so angry? If you answer these two questions and take action, then you will be on the mark to feel less angry or not feel angry at all.
If you try any of the things that I mentioned in this post and have it as a habit to do, then I can say that you will start to feel less angry and more at peace.
If you have any questions or you want to share your experience, then feel free to comment below and I will try to reply you back as soon as possible.
That’s all I have for this blog, I hope that you guys have a great day and got something out of this.